KINDLY NOTE: One of my clients and I have a tense relationship that is now coming to an end. He will be switching jobs.
I’m delighted for him and myself. We never got along when it came to finishing the work, no matter how hard I tried.
I’m supposed to be at the farewell party for this guy that our team is throwing. Given that I don’t like the guy, I feel a little bit hypocritical for showing up.
Should I skip the celebrations?
I don’t feel it
NOT FEELING IT, DEAR: I frequently assert that conclusions are more significant than beginnings.
Yes, things haven’t exactly gone smoothly between you and this guy. He still merits appreciation for the time you spent with him.
Attending with a sincere smile on your face is advised. Be happy for him that he has discovered a chance that makes him happy while also being savvy for yourself. You must demonstrate to the other members of the team that you work well with others and have a positive outlook.
You should resist the urge to disparage the departing client and instead extend a warm welcome to whoever comes next. Stay positive and impartial.
KINDLY NOTE: My parents separated years ago. This year, Father’s Day fell on the same day as my mother’s birthday.
Most years, this problem arises because they occur very close together even when they do not fall on the same day. Since the days are so close together, I frequently find that I cannot devote enough time or resources to both.
I’m aware that even though they never make a big deal out of it in front of me, choosing one over the other will ultimately offend one of their feelings. There is no way to celebrate with one another.
Nothing changed from last year. On Father’s Day, I called my father to wish him a happy holiday, but I instead went to dinner with my mother. I could tell he was depressed.
What should I do to make them both feel as special and loved as possible on their special days, in your opinion?
Two Particular Days
TWO SPECIAL DAYS: To start, acknowledge that this isn’t about the money. It must be about the timing and the sentiment. Even though you can’t be there in person for each of them, you still need to think of something that will make them feel special. Make advance plans.
Set the schedule early and decide what you will do for one of them the week before the holiday. You might prepare a special meal, go on a fun outing to a museum or another interesting location, or meet up with an old friend. To let your parent know that you are trying to make it special, make a big deal out of what you are doing.
Make sure to honor the other parent on the actual day as well by calling, FaceTiming, or in some other way.
